Written by: Carl Puleo, LPCA
Getting counseling is very important for many people who want to have a positive change in their lives. But for most people who go to counseling, they only spend an hour or two each week. What about the other 167 hours? The work that goes into creating change in one’s life takes place during this time.
So, it is important to have some resources to work with. Going to a bookstore or the library can become overwhelming with all of the self-help books available. Where do you start? What is worth your time or a waste of your time? In this article, I am going to present what I believe are valuable resources for your efforts to change your life.
Albert Einstein is famous for having a high IQ. We believe that if someone has a high IQ that means he is really smart. However, few people have heard of an EQ, or also known as Emotional Intelligence. The book Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves not only presents an easy to understand explanation of Emotional Intelligence, they also tell you ways you can improve your own.
When you purchase this book, you will gain access to a website that will offer you a free self-examination to determine your EQ score and help explain areas in which you need improvement. The book then becomes a guide on how to improve your EQ. You do not have to do the online self-exam to get what you need from the book. The free self-exam is only if you want to do it, but it is not necessary.
Bradberry and Greaves present four areas of Emotional Intelligence: Self-Awareness, Self-Management, Social Awareness, and Relationship Management. Self-Awareness is the ability to know your own emotions and to identify what they are. Self-Management is the skill of handling your emotions in a healthy way. Social Awareness is being able to recognize emotions in others. Relationship Management is the ability to deal with emotions in one’s relationship. Altogether these abilities and areas make up what is called Emotional Intelligence.
For each of these four areas, the authors present skills and techniques to practice in order to improve your EQ. Each of the areas has around 15 to 17 different skills and techniques to practice. Each of the skills is presented in short, two to three-page instructions that make it easy to read and follow.
What I liked most about this book is that Bradberry and Greaves don’t use the typical psychobabble that one finds in most self-help books, but rather clear, understandable English. They make complex ideas simple to understand. There are only 8 chapters but each chapter is packed with useful information. They didn’t waste a lot of time on material that was unnecessary like a lot of self-help books do. Bradberry and Greaves get right to the point and no word or sentence is wasteful. Finally, each of the skills and techniques presented are simple and easy things to do.
Improving your EQ score will enable you to navigate through life with a better sense of self-control and improve your relationships. Reading this book will help you get started in that direction.